tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post150645934055972211..comments2023-11-26T01:21:35.860-07:00Comments on Mormon Mommy Writers and Friends: Saturday So What: Peanut GalleryMarianne (Mare) Baker Ballhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03663143060069193124noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-85464548586476522972012-03-24T20:30:22.833-06:002012-03-24T20:30:22.833-06:00Thanks for the comment Mary! And good for you for ...Thanks for the comment Mary! And good for you for sticking to your guns. It's tough in public right?Betsy Schowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17456220738320186343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-49079958650592280252012-03-24T16:55:03.099-06:002012-03-24T16:55:03.099-06:00Good for you Betsy! I did something similar when ...Good for you Betsy! I did something similar when my now 16 year old grandson was 3-4 years old. He wanted something while we were shopping and I said no. He threw himself down in the middle of the isle and pitched a screaming fit. I looked at him and walked around him leaving him right where he was at. If looks could have killed, I would have died at 47. It didn't take him a minute and he jumped up and straightened himself up. <br />My 3 year old granddaughter did a screaming Mimi in the doctor's office because I wouldn't let her run around. I rewarded her with a small smack on her bottom and put her firmly on a chair next to me. The looks I got said it all. I simply told her I didn't care if we were in public, she had to behave and I would spank her if necessary. She nodded and hugged me and behaved herself after that. <br />You just can't let people dictate what you feel is right. I didn't feel guilty about either situation. <br />Thanks for the reminder on ignoring the peanut gallery.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-9951569053429493802012-03-24T10:47:36.293-06:002012-03-24T10:47:36.293-06:00Your very welcome, and I totally agree. With hurtf...Your very welcome, and I totally agree. With hurtful comments its especially useful to examine the speakers motives. Some mean well, bu their tact sucks. Others only want to tear you down to lift themselves upsBetsy Schowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17456220738320186343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-79936402003413701002012-03-24T08:38:56.623-06:002012-03-24T08:38:56.623-06:00I like your take on the peanut gallery. I have rec...I like your take on the peanut gallery. I have recently discovered that when people give unsolicited criticism, it usually says a lot more about them than it does about you. I received a critical comment well-veiled as a concern from an acquaintance and it really bugged me until I stepped back and thought, "What would I be thinking to make this kind of a comment?" The answer? I would be aiming to embarrass the person I was saying it to and cause them to question their self-worth, thus boosting my own ego. I know that I'm not that kind of a person. Obviously, the person who said it is that kind of person, which makes me sad, but also helps me to know that I can safely ignore that comment and not let it make me feel bad, because it has nothing to do with me. Sounds like your "well-meaning" parenting critic at the supermarket was that kind of person as well.<br /><br />This is also a great tool for handling feedback and criticism- take what you need, ditch the rest. Thanks for this great post! :-)KaseyQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394640941485859111noreply@blogger.com