tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post8253886096257462314..comments2023-11-26T01:21:35.860-07:00Comments on Mormon Mommy Writers and Friends: Who is the Most Important Person in Your Family? Marianne (Mare) Baker Ballhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03663143060069193124noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-51422634763660749242017-03-20T12:48:10.016-06:002017-03-20T12:48:10.016-06:00I totally get where you're coming from with th...I totally get where you're coming from with this. What I think is interesting, though, is that the psychologists that write these articles usually eventually get around to the point that the reason we don't always put the kids' needs ahead of ours is to teach them that other people are important and have feelings too, and to ensure they have emotionally connected parents. So why are we not putting them first? To teach them and give them a stable home. <br /><br />So, yes, still, it's about the kids! LOL! When you're a parent it really does always have to be about the kids, even when we're intentionally making it NOT about the kids, because it's a lesson the kids need to learn! <br /><br />I remember the best parenting advice I ever got was from my mom. It was after I'd blown up at one of the kids and then called her, crying, because I was fairly certain I was the worst mom ever. She said, "Kasey, your kids need to know that you have your limits too." I think sometimes we try to portray some kind of superhuman facade to our kids that's not only not realistic, but it's not fair to them or to us. <br /><br />That's not saying I have an excuse to blow my top whenever I feel like it, but it does mean that when I do I don't have to beat myself up about it. I can just apologize and move on. I've also found that sometimes when I feel myself starting to get to that breaking point I can just say, "Hey guys? Mom is feeling stressed out right now. I know you're not trying to stress me out, but I just need some peace and quiet or I might start to feel angry, and I don't want to feel angry. Can you help me out?" I'd rather do that and expose some weakness to them and allow them in rather than try to stuff down all my feelings and then later blow up. <br /><br />Oh, the joys of parenting. There's no right way of doing it. As long as we love them, it will all work out. :-)KaseyQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394640941485859111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-40883763030071725262017-03-19T13:55:53.439-06:002017-03-19T13:55:53.439-06:00I saw that question "who is the most importan...I saw that question "who is the most important in the family" and my first thought before I read anything was my mum & dad equally but yeah many people say their kids and I get that my daughters and grandchildren are my life but in order of importance they come behind my parentsJo-Anne's Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418152399382818709noreply@blogger.com