tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-78147717519900613252024-02-26T00:03:20.025-07:00Mormon Mommy Writers and FriendsChanging the world one book at a timeMarianne (Mare) Baker Ballhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03663143060069193124noreply@blogger.comBlogger2214125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-31210810050290883882018-04-18T07:56:00.000-06:002018-04-18T07:56:19.873-06:00After the Excitement, Back to the Grind<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Well,
in case you missed it, an anthology I am a part of came out last week. If you’re
interested in all the gushing excitement, head on over to my personal blog
<a href="http://calloohcallaycallay.blogspot.com/2018/03/cover-reveal-unspun.html" target="_blank">here</a>. It was a fun day/week for our little anthology, and its opening day was
really amazing. So much excitement! So much checking of stats! So much
fangirling when this happened:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Okay,
sure, his book has been in that general area forever, and we only hit it for a
little while. But still, it’s one of those little moments you just have to
enjoy.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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a week has passed, and we’re past all the first hoorahs. And suddenly it’s like
my writing is in a vacuum. I’ve been spending the last several months on almost
weekly deadlines—short story contests, submissions, materials to submit for the
upcoming Storymakers conference, final proofs for <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Unspun</i>, etc. Now I have this gigantic lull.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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think this is where writing is hard for some of us. Somehow I manage to pull
out some impressive feats once in a while when I’m backed up against a
deadline, but then in the in-between spaces it can be hard to feel properly
motivated. But these in-between spaces are where a lot of the real work
happens.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">So
we have to find ways to motivate ourselves. It’s different for everyone, but we
have to find what works for us. One thing I’ve got write now is an amazing
accountability partner—we check in with each other every week on goals and
plans. It doesn’t keep me perfectly in line, but it helps me to remember, “Hey,
if I spend five hours binge-watching reality cooking shows, I’ve got to go tell
LaChelle I was a total spaz. Maybe I’ll just write for five minutes... and then
binge watch.” (At least I wrote first!) I’m also trying to practice building in
deadlines (like most short story markets have deadlines, so I’m trying to write
to some of them). I have friends who create their own reward systems—new shoes,
new books, a bowl of ice cream, etc. There are lots of options out there!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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if you’re like me and you need some extra motivation to keep writing past the really
exciting moments (first ideas, first drafts, publications, etc.), go find it,
implement it. Not every moment of writing has to be filled with joy and
inspiration, but I think we can find a lot more lasting fulfillment as we
practice writing through the grind as well.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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pleasures is watching reality cooking shows. Not that I ever cook much, but
it's really fun to watch other people cook. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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watching one on Netflix called <i>Zumbo’s
Just Desserts</i> (seriously), I found myself thinking, “They’re talking about
the lavender oil a lot. That means she added too much and it’s gonna taste
awful.” And sure enough, a few minutes later, the judges were telling her that
her cake tasted like potpourri. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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attention, and I realized that reality cooking shows are a really great place
to see foreshadowing, clues, and misdirection in action. In any given episode, <b>the filming and editing have already
provided almost every clue you need to figure out the end result</b> of the
episode.* <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">These shows are also
great at emotional manipulation. It was obvious pretty quickly in <i>Zumbo’s</i>, for example, that there was one
particular character** who we were supposed to dislike. Everything this fellow
said felt egotistical and just slightly sexist. And no one else spoke that way—at
least not in the episode as it was edited. What is he like in real life? What
are any of them like in real life? No idea. But we knew who to root for and who
to dislike, just by their behaviors and speech. We didn’t have to be told.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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every clip they include matters, and they’re supposed to sway our perceptions. Does
someone comment on how this weird flavor combination is definitely going to
work? That will be important later in the episode—it’s either going to come
back to bite them, or it’s going to turn out to have been absolutely brilliant.***<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Which leads me to the
subject of misdirection. Because it would be boring if every clue told you
where to look. So they edit in specific comments and moments, but you don’t
know if they’re going to lead to a flop or a fly. That lavender oil bit could
have led to a fantastic success. What it couldn’t have led to? Nothing. Talking
about it has signaled that something important is going on.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When a reality cooking
show calls attention to a detail, that means it will matter. As an audience, we
may not know if it will matter for good or for ill, but it <i>matters</i>. And that’s the way our writing should be as well. <b>The details that we focus on should tell
part of the story</b>. The reader should be able to look back and say, “Oh, I
see now why that mattered.” <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">It’s like Chekhov’s
gun on the mantel. You can’t just put it there and then ignore it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Analyzing the ways
that reality cooking shows manipulate the audience and misdirect/guide us has
been interesting to me, and I find myself actively trying to notice the clues
as I watch. So if you need an excuse to watch your favorite cooking show, here
you go.**** <b>Call it research.<o:p></o:p></b></span></div>
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has aired, you can sometimes see the clues for the finale right from the beginning.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">** I say “character” because, let’s be honest, “reality” tv isn’t
actually real. These are certainly characters or at least personas, not real
people.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;">*** I just wrote “absolutely brilliant.” This means I’ve been
watching </span></i><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;">The Great British Baking
Show<i>.<o:p></o:p></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;">**** One caveat: American reality cooking shows do it far more than
foreign. </span></i><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;">The Great British Baking
Show<i> feels a bit less manipulative of our
emotions, although there are still plenty of clues to the results of each
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-30098729169765883692018-01-10T10:43:00.000-07:002018-01-10T10:43:01.503-07:00Start Small<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in;">
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Anyone
who lives near me and knows me well enough to drop in unexpectedly (or just
drop in at all really) already knows this unsurprising fact: I am not much good
at keeping the house clean. Insert the usual reasons here: small children,
other priorities, and so on. This isn’t about making me feel better for having
a messy house.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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is about making changes—to cleaning up, to writing, to whatever. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">A
friend of mine recommended this book called <i>How
to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind</i> (which, incidentally, is <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Manage-Your-Home-Without-Losing/dp/0718079957/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1515605087&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=how+to+clean+up+without+losing+your+mind" target="_blank">on sale at Amazon today only</a>!), and I recently started reading it. Previous
decluttering/cleaning-related books had fallen flat for me over and over. The
ideas sounded awesome, but I was never very good with follow-through. (Plus, as
has become a standing joke, I don’t like to talk to my socks, and my tax
documents don’t really spark joy.) <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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book is for the non-organized among us. In fact, the author, Dana White, starts
off by saying that most of those other books are written by <i>organized people</i>, people who just
logically work that way. White is not.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Well,
honestly, I think this book is pretty great. It’s all kind of completely
obvious—except that I’d never really thought these things through, and I’d
never really bought into them before. So it’s obvious but also ... not obvious.
And for the first time in a long time, my dishes are being finished every night
(even if I have to handwash a couple!), my kitchen floor is clean(ish), and
tidying doesn’t feel like it takes <i>forever</i>.
I consider all of these things epic wins (even at the same time that I’m super
embarrassed to admit that as a 37yo I still hadn’t figured out how to do these
things regularly). So if you too have cleaning problems, go buy it! Read it! It’s
an idea.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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this post isn’t actually about whether or not you’re a clean person. It’s about
<i>starting small</i>. And how small makes a
huge difference.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">In <i>How to Manage Your Home</i>, the first task
you’re assigned is just to do the dishes every day. For some of us, this seems
like a daunting task. But White essentially says, “<b>Pull up your big-kid panties
and just do it.</b>” <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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it the first day, when it’s really hard because you’re way behind. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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then do it the second day, when it’s not as bad. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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concept, yes? Just do it. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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now we come around to writing! (See? I do get there eventually.) <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">How
does a story get written? A few words at a time. A couple of sentences, then
paragraphs, then pages. But how does it not get done? By staring at the blank
screen (or even just thinking about the blank screen) and freaking out because
there’s so much to do and you haven’t started and you’re on a deadline and your
ideas are crap and everyone out there is a bestseller and your friend has a
more popular social media account than you and maybe if you just post something
brilliant (like a blog post about starting small?) suddenly everyone will love
you and you’ll get contracts and agents and publishers and million-dollar
advances, but wait, none of that is going to work because your screen is still
blank and it’s freaking you out and...<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Get
the picture? So what should you do about that story that you haven’t figured
out yet? That you really want to write but it’s scaring you because it’s so
hard or you’re not sure where to go or you’re not sure you’re good enough to
write it yet? (Welcome to my entire life right now, by the way.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-82343978463992382622017-11-29T10:42:00.002-07:002017-11-29T10:42:42.339-07:00In Which I Have a Birthday and Review the Year<iframe allowfullscreen="" class="giphy-embed" frameborder="0" height="270" src="https://giphy.com/embed/SUA9E0GcSyhCU" width="480"></iframe><br />
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Next week is my birthday. I’ll be 37, which is exciting if
you like prime numbers but less fun if you prefer to have lots of factors in
your age (like 36, which is fantastic—1, 2, 3, 4, 6, 9, 12, 18, 36!). If you
multiple 37 by 3, however, you do get a cool number (111), so it’s not all bad.
Plus, it gives you the opportunity to be geeky about numbers, which is always a
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Anyway, I think it’s about time for an early midlife crisis,
but I just don’t know what direction to take that (except, of course,
rearranging all the furniture in my house and trying to toss half of my
belongings, but since that happens regularly, it doesn’t really count). </div>
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When I think about my age and writing, though, I can’t help
but think of many/most of my favorite authors. Shannon Hale and Brandon
Sanderson are both only a few years older than me. They’ve been publishing
waaaaaay longer than I have (since, technically, I still haven’t!). Kate
DiCamillo published <i>Because of Winn Dixie</i>
when she was 36ish. We won’t go on and on, because that would be depressing. I
guess the point is that it sure doesn’t feel like I’m doing much with my
writing career.</div>
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At the same time, I’m quite aware that their career paths are
just not for me. But then I think, “Maybe it’s because I’m just not a hard
enough worker” (totally true), “Maybe I’m not talented” (hopefully not true), blah
blah blah. I dither a lot. In the end, pretty much the only reasonable
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of which are going into anthologies relatively soon. I’ve participated in a
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<a href="http://lit.mormonartist.net/2017/06/forty-years-by-jeanna-mason-stay/" target="_blank">Mormon Lit Blitz</a> this year. (Yay!) I won a Beginning of Book contest. I was
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I tried writing several stories that I wasn’t good enough to
write yet. One of them turned out well. Some turned out okay anyway, though not
amazing. One of them crashed and is still burning. I’m planning on pulling out
the fire extinguisher and trying again. In trying things I wasn’t ready for, I
got (hopefully) just a teensy bit better.</div>
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I started out the year with a goal of writing every single
day. That goal also crashed and burned around August, but that was still pretty
good for me. I went farther on that than I had previously, and I still write
many days, though not even close to all.</div>
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I taught a writing class to a group of awesome teens, and as
part of that, I put together an anthology of their awesome writing. It was an
insane amount of work, but it turned out so fun, and I’m so glad I did it. I
learned a lot about how anthologies work, how hard it is to put things in an
order that makes sense and flows, and a lot of mishmash of stuff that I may
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I discovered how much I love short fiction. I’m learning how
it gives me most of the joy of writing, which is a big part of why I write in
the first place. But it comes with far fewer of the bouts of angst, suffering,
agony, and self-doubt that novel-writing has done in the past. So I’ve not given
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Looking back, I’m really happy about writing this year, even
though it still isn’t what I had planned on. I won some, lost some, grew and
changed a lot. Another time I’ll start thinking about goals for the coming
year, but for now, I think I’ll just relish where I’ve been. I’ll never catch
up to my author crushes, but I think maybe I’ll find a place where I’m happy
being me.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-7900013783987870842017-11-25T08:00:00.000-07:002017-11-25T08:00:16.157-07:00All God's Children<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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So many different ways on Facebook<i> (and everywhere else)</i> that people are posting things or commenting in ways that are breaking my heart. So many horrible things said about "those people"---all different sorts of "thoses" and so many sweeping generalizations, falsehoods, fearmongering, dehumanizing.... </div>
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People. We are all, on this Earth, brothers and sisters. No race, religion, gender, class, or political group can be judged by the bad actions of a relative few. Even of they could, it's not the point. We were commanded by the Lord to "love thy neighbor as thyself" and when he said that, there was no fine print with exceptions to that commandment. </div>
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You can't denigrate a whole race, or religion, or any group of people either by holding up their worst as an example of them all, by taking things out of context, by spreading rumors, by going on websites full of hate to find "facts" and then say you love your neighbor. You can't spread discord and contention and think you are right with God, OK with the Savior. </div>
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Those people you insult, are children of God. Literally. Imagine how you feel when someone has insulted your child. If you, being imperfect, love your child so much that your heart aches for them, imagine how much more pain YOUR GOD feels when you behave as if one, or some, or many, of HIS children, are trash or devils or whatever terrible label you want to use. </div>
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The great deceiver, Satan, would have us live in fear of each other, in misunderstanding, in hate. He laughs at us when we believe him, that we have to build MORE walls around our countries, our communities, our hearts. He is a liar.</div>
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Hello, my awesome MMWs! I have missed you so, and I apologize for my abrupt absence. I have no good explanations for it, except that one day I didn't get around to writing my Monday post, and then it happened again, and then again, until it was just easier to keep "forgetting" than to come back and post.<br />
<br />But now I'm back, because Things are happening with my writing!<br />
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<b>Thing 1: </b>I made an author page on Facebook. I decided it was finally time. Come see me- <a href="http://www.facebook.com/KQTwrites">www.facebook.com/KQTwrites</a><br />
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<b>Thing 2:</b> I'm NaNoEdMo-ing my LDS romantic comedy novel based on the four- yes FOUR- critiques I got back from critique partners. They are amazing and it was a big boost to my confidence that they all FINISHED the book and seemed to enjoy it! I'm feeling thisclose to getting this novel ready for submissions, and as soon as I do submit it, I have several other projects just waiting for my attention, so I'm eager to get going on those as well.<br />
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<b>Thing 3:</b> I'm trying to put myself "out there" more. This past week I gave a presentation at my kids' middle school about what it's like to be a writer, and I also attended the Festival of the Written Word, a fantastic event put on by my local library, where I attended 3 panel discussions and was reminded of how much fun it is to be among my tribe. Side note: did you know that 90% of published authors are finding their agents through networking these days? Only 10% through cold queries. If that doesn't encourage you to put yourself out there in the writing community, I don't know what will!<br /><br />Another reason I'm back posting here once again is because I was helping a writing friend with an issue she was having with character development and the first resource I turned to was Mormon Mommy Writers, because I remembered we'd had some fantastic posts on the subject. I started searching through the posts and I realized we have a TON of fantastic posts on all aspects of writing, and I remembered what an honor it is to be associated with this blog, and I was ashamed of myself for letting my participation in it lapse.<br />
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So again, please forgive me my neglect, and I look forward to jumping back in with both feet and sharing this journey with you once again!<br /><br />Now, it's time to catch up- what's going on with YOUR writing these days? NaNoWriMo? NaNoEdMo? NoNaNo? Give me the scoop, I'm dying to know!<br /><br />
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<br />KaseyQhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18394640941485859111noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-45753571391712356572017-09-09T22:30:00.000-06:002017-09-10T01:37:15.098-06:00Finding Your Voice Through Storytelling<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
By Lacey Gunter<br />
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I had the opportunity this weekend to attend the <a href="https://timpfest.org/" target="_blank">Timpanogus Storytelling Festival</a> for the second year in a row. I went with my parents and my kids and we had a great time. Some of the stories were unique and personal, some were retelling of an old classic in a new way, and some were just off the wall zany and silly.<br />
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I love listening to the stories, but one of the best reasons to come to a storytelling festival is to hear each of the story teller's unique voice. I don't mean the actual tone of their voice, but rather the way they tell their story. A storyteller's unique voice is at least half of what draws an audience into their story. In much the same way, a writer's voice is critical in drawing a reader into their story.<br />
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But how do we get our writer's voice or even know what it is? If you've ever got the feedback on a manuscript that your story lacks voice or needs more of your own unique writer's voice, it may not be obvious how to get it. Fixing grammatical errors, making characters more three dimensional, mending plot holes or spicing up a query letter can be difficult tasks. But there are typical tried and true ways to help you accomplish these tasks and most authors with enough commitment can reasonably manage them.<br />
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Knowing how to find your unique writer's voice, on the other hand, may not be as apparent. Finding your unique writer's voice isn't exactly something you can learn from studying writing books or talking to successful authors. So what's a writer to do? My suggestion to you is to try out storytelling. If you can figure out how to draw someone you are talking to into a story, your unique voice is going to naturally shine through in your writing as well. <br />
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Start out small and easy. Pick a story you know really well. It can be a memory from your own life or even a tried and true fable you've heard a thousand times. Then find a small audience, or even a camera or mirror, and give it a whirl. The more you practice, the better you are going to get and the more you are going to discover what kind of stories your good at telling and how you like to tell them.</div>
Lacey http://www.blogger.com/profile/00821814832469246760noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-31335717724870387562017-09-06T15:36:00.000-06:002017-09-06T15:36:07.912-06:00Getting Back in the Saddle<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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And then, something hit. I'm still not sure what it was, and I'm definitely not over it yet. It's been like walking uphill through sludge. I just haven't cared. About much of anything, really. I've wondered, am I depressed? Am I just being lazy? <i>What is wrong with me?</i> </div>
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And the wonderful little checkmarks that I used to make to keep track of days I wrote ... They just tapered off. I haven't even looked at the tracking app I have for weeks. Just thinking about it makes me feel tense. Pretty much the entire month of August, a black hole of nothing. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-14325942382230615822017-08-26T22:00:00.000-06:002017-08-26T23:27:49.533-06:00Muse Wanted<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Muse, my muse, I've been a tad busy lately.<br />
Not by choice though, life and responsibilities just got a little ahead of me.<br />
I've come back to you begging on hands and knees to be my friend again.<br />
Whisper those sweet little ideas into my mind, even in the middle of the night.<br />
I won't complain. I promise.<br />
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Muse, sweet muse, remember the good old days when we use to be thick as thieves.<br />
You'd introduce me to all sorts of crazy characters. <br />
We'd plot and scheme together.<br />
You always had a way of making me laugh at the most inopportune times.<br />
We were good together, you and me.<br />
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Muse, hey muse, I know you love a good game of chase.<br />
I've got my running shoes on, see.<br />
You can start us out with just the mere shadow of an idea, and I can...<br />
Wait, what was that, ... wait, I wasn't quite ready... ouch... slow down ...please!<br />
You know this game is a lot more fun when you let yourself get caught once in a while.<br />
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Muse, crazy muse, alright, I can see you've already got plans tonight.<br />
Well, if you change your mind, I'll just be sitting here in front of this computer all night.<br />
And for your information, I won't even think about getting on Facebook.<br />
You do remember my number, don't you?<br />
Well, I guess I'll be seein' ya...hopefully.<br />
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Lacey http://www.blogger.com/profile/00821814832469246760noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-14001141859118143812017-08-10T07:15:00.000-06:002017-08-10T07:33:21.117-06:00Because of the Struggle<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Cursed runner weeds.</td></tr>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">- a post by <a href="http://calloohcallaycallay.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Jeanna Mason Stay</a></i></div>
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Today I was out pulling weeds in a tiny patch of my yard.
They were the kind of weeds that send out runners that then put down more roots
and just keep on going. I had let them go far too long and they were huge and
well-established. To tug them up, I had to yank and yank and yank all along
their lengths until the whole system came up. I thought to myself, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I hate these weeds. I wish they didn’t
exist. There is absolutely no purpose to them.</i></div>
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And then, immediately, I began to wonder—<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">what if there is a purpose to them?</i></div>
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For me, the answer came swiftly. They were there for the
struggle. That twenty or thirty minutes of hard work pulling up weeds, with my
fingers in the dirt, making my little patch of garden lovely again—that time
was hard, but in the end, I loved the sense of accomplishment. I loved the
progress. I loved that I had done something hard.</div>
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I was recently asked to do something that is going to be
incredibly hard for me. Quite frankly, my first reaction was <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I don’t want to do this. I wish it didn’t
exist. I </i>can’t<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"> do it.</i> I’m still
struggling with it, though I absolutely know it’s the right thing to do. But
just like pulling weeds, it’s going to be <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">hard</i>.
But I think the struggle is part of the point. If we never struggle, we never
know what we’re capable of. We never get the powerful feeling that comes of
getting through something that is difficult.</div>
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A friend recently told me it had been forever since she last
wrote, but she wanted to start—and she was scared. She is a confident, awesome
person, and she has tried and is good at so many things. But she’s afraid that
in this she will fail. So to her I ask, what can you learn about yourself if
you try? What if it’s not about “success” (and who defines “success” anyway)? What
if it’s about discovering new possibilities? What if it’s about the struggle?</div>
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Last month I gave this suggestion: Write something you’re
not good enough to write yet. That is something that I’ve really needed to
remember lately as I’ve struggled with a story that is almost working but just
not quite. I’m just not good enough to write it yet, but I’m still trying.</div>
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But I pulled up the weeds, and their purpose was the
struggle. I will do the hard thing, and I will grow in that struggle. I will
finish the story and I will submit it to the places I’m writing it for, and
they will probably reject it, but I will get better at writing, and my next
story will be better because I tried.</div>
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Because of the struggle.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-38140537654573460542017-07-22T01:05:00.000-06:002017-07-22T01:05:04.951-06:00The Things That Matter Most<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-size: x-small;">by Jewel Leann Williams</span><br />
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I think Heavenly Father is trying to help me do some decluttering in my life. I've had a couple of experiences that have been.....enlightening, to say the least, and have helped to remind me about the things that matter most in my life.<br />
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I saw some pictures on Facebook of friends who were having a great time doing something all together, which was like the umpteenth time I'd seem some sort of picture/post like this on Facebook. You know, the one where all these different people who are your friends, are all hanging out doing something fun, and you weren't invited... do you ever see those? Well, this time my internal voice, the one that sometimes sounds like those middle-school boys who were nasty to me, and sometimes sounds likes a sibling when we would fight growing up, and a LOT of the time just sounds like my own voice, well that internal voice reminded me that I am <b>not</b> fun, and <b>not</b> good company, and why on Earth would anyone want to invite me to go do fun things when I am not even pleasant to be around? I'm not one of the cool kids, I never was and never will be. My internal voice is nasty and knows exactly how to push all my little self-esteem buttons. I subconsciously decided that these people I thought were my friends, were really just tolerating me, and didn't really even <i>like</i> me, or else they would've included me in The Neat Thing They Just Posted On Facebook. I found myself feeling alternately sorry for them to have to put up with a schlub like me, and angry at them for not including me in the Fun Thing. This downward spiral makes my tummy hurt and sort of ruins my day/days until it fades back in the back of my mind and then I forget about all the terrible terribleness.<br />
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I was in the middle of one of these cycles, sitting in church wallowing just a little when my son snuck himself into a position where he could lay across my lap and have me tickle his back. He turned up his adorable little face to me, smiled dreamily, and said "I love you so much Mommy." My heart did the little squeeze it always does when I hear those words and see those smiles. I also had another thought. I can't necessarily say it was the Spirit because it sounded a little too rebellious and snarky, but the other voice in my head said, "Who <i>cares</i> about any of <i>those</i> people? <i>This little boy loves me with everything he has inside him.</i>" I thought how I have five other kids and a husband that I can say the same for. <br />
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They are the thing that matters most.<br />
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This week, I was bemoaning the annoying state of my Facebook feed with my sister-in-law. I was complaining about how I had all of these things on my feed, from Facebook friends who were leftover from my days in ANWA, but for the most part were people I didn't even know in person and would never meet. I was getting caught up in their opinions and stories and posts about things that sometimes infuriated me, and these were all people I had no actual relationship with. WHY was I investing energy in any of this? She suggested I unfollow them. There was this fleeting moment where I thought, "But I'm going to miss out on..." and then nothing. I couldn't think about what I would miss out on. So I unfollowed every person in my feed who was not someone I knew in real life. No more time wasted on pretend relationships.<br />
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At the same time, thanks to Facebook, a couple of weeks ago I got back in touch after 20 years with a beloved family from my mission, who I will get to visit with tomorrow all the way from Mexico. I can't wait to meet the 4 kids of the girl I knew as an amazing and smart teenager so long ago, and to give a hug to one of the sisters who showed me so much love.<br />
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These are the things that matter most.<br />
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I am grateful for these little opportunities to declutter and to get back to basics. I know that I have some really solid friends, the ones whose regard for me I never have to doubt, and with whom I never feel less than. I have an amazing husband and kids, and people from my entire life who I am blessed to be in touch with thanks to technology. I know that I am exceedingly blessed, and that sharpening my focus to those people makes me a much happier person than when I worry about superfluous pseudo-relationships.<br />
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Leannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02967382833556002531noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-44636020465057285712017-07-13T19:24:00.000-06:002017-07-13T19:24:26.577-06:00Tips for Finding Short Story Markets<i>- a post by <a href="http://calloohcallaycallay.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Jeanna Mason Stay</a></i><br />
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">A couple weeks ago I attended Balticon, a sci fi and fantasy
convention in Baltimore. It was interesting and fun, with some useful tips for
some work I’m doing and also some great accessories (like these horns!). But
the part I want to talk about here is the short story resources that I learned
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Up to now, I have mostly just been randomly coming across
places to submit short stories, kind of hit and miss and pretty scarce. But
since I’m working on short fiction more these days, I was excited to learn
about these resources, listed below. These are all about finding markets for
your stories, and believe me—if you are interested in writing short fiction,
there are <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">lots</i> of markets.</span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Facebook
open call groups</span></i></b><span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">. Search on Facebook for groups
called “open call” and then the genre that you write. For example, I have
joined an open call group for sci fi and fantasy. When people hear about
anthologies or other markets that are seeking stories in the genre, they post.
This has been AMAZING for generating huge lists of places I could submit
stories to. Now I just have to write them! :)</span></div>
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This site is for mostly speculative fiction, and it is vast. Does the market
exist? It’s probably listed. </span></div>
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<a href="http://duotrope.com/"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Duotrope.com</span></i></b></a><span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">. This
one is a paid service. It was recommended, but honestly, since looking at the
other options and how much content they have, I won’t be doing this. </span></div>
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rejections and acceptances and other exciting stuff. Data! We loves it, my
precious! (I’m married to a data scientist type, so we really really like
numbers and graphs and spreadsheets.)</span></div>
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but it is an interesting and exciting one too, and these resources can help you
find markets for your short pieces, including even flash fiction (who knew that
some people pay for flash?).</span></div>
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have made a rookie mistake a number of times and am paying for it now. Don’t
publish your short fiction on your blog just for fun. This pretty much rules it
out for a lot of markets who will then consider your story a reprint—which many
markets don’t want. Sure, it’s fun to share your work, but make sure you’re
never going to want to try to sell it. </span></div>
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There are different payment brackets for short fiction—pro (generally
$0.06/word), semipro (around $0.03/word), token (less; sometimes a flat rate),
nonpaying, etc. And there are markets that may excite you personally more than
others (there are a couple of fairy tale magazines that I dream of being
published in because that’s my cup of tea). Why not start with your dream
markets? The worst that will happen is that they say no and you move on down the
line to the next market you’re interested in. But what if they say yes
instead? </span></div>
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to write yet</span></i><span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">. I’d love to say more about this in the future, but for now
let me just start with this—short fiction is an awesome place to try out
something you don’t know how to write. I’ve never written science fiction,
always thought it was kind of out of my depth, but I’ve recently found a market
for middle grade sci fi that I’m kind of dying to write a piece for. It may be
awful, it may be great—who knows? But it’s worth trying something new, and no
matter how awful or great it is, I took the chance to stretch and grow. Which
means it’s awesome no matter what.</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-34314393446930106052017-06-15T19:19:00.003-06:002017-06-15T19:19:48.258-06:00Shameless Self-Promotion!: Mormon Lit Blitz editionHave you heard of the Mormon Lit Blitz? It's a flash fiction contest that's been going on around this time every year for the past five or six years. Flash fiction, if you don't know, is generally considered to be fiction under 1000 words (although it doesn't include children's picture and board books, which are usually in that range too). It's fun to write--though it can be surprisingly difficult--and quick to read. Hence the "flash" part.<br />
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This year, my entry was a finalist, and this week is the voting. So I'm taking a moment to shamelessly promote my story and hope that you will go read it and the other stories then vote.<br />
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It's titled "Forty Years," and it's the story of a woman and her relationship with her mother and with motherhood.<br />
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The voting ends on Friday, so if you're inclined to vote, go do it! <a href="http://lit.mormonartist.net/2017/06/2017-mormon-lit-blitz-voting-instructions/" target="_blank">Here's the link</a> to voting instructions. Also, there's a small discussion of each individual piece going on <a href="https://mormonmidrashim.blogspot.com/2017/06/forty-years-by-jeanna-mason-stay.html" target="_blank">here</a> (and of course you can page to the other stories' discussions too), so if you have a desire to share your thoughts on any of the stories, I encourage you to do so. Being writers, you know how awesome it feels to have people respond positively or thoughtfully to your work, so go share that feeling with someone else!<br />
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And if you're on Facebook, go like the Mormon Lit Blitz so that you can hear about and enter the contest next year!<br />
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Thanks,<br />JeannaAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-38246395853645856992017-06-10T16:38:00.000-06:002017-06-10T23:19:28.894-06:00Criticism and the Writer<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-size: x-small;">by Jewel Leann Williams</span><br />
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Unless you are writing a journal entry, or a secret document you never intend the world to see, you will endure criticism. Anyone who reads your book, poem, short story, or blog entry, will have thoughts about it, whether they express them or not.<br />
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Your words will resonate with them--or they won't.<br />
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Your characters, the setting, your pacing--all of those things will either engage them, or they won't.<br />
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So, why not get some good, solid criticism before you let your words go public, so that you can change those things that need to be corrected, before it's too late?<br />
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Well, because asking people whose opinion you value to possibly tell you things they don't like about this thing you've been pouring your soul into, is absolutely frightening, that's why!<br />
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Many writers are so terrified to hear that their "baby" is actually really ugly, that they don't ever present to critique groups or beta readers.<br />
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What's worse, some writers are so invested in their project that even if they do have beta readers, when those readers outline all the things that are wrong with the book, the writer has a meltdown. Sometimes they go on Facebook to get validation and commiseration, they may discount the criticism, or possibly take it so much to heart that they don't touch the project again.<br />
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These things ought not to be. With this in mind, I present the following steps to receiving criticism as a writer (I am talking about the kind of criticism you ASK for: critique groups, beta readers, etc.):<br />
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Step 1: Say, "Thank you." You did, after all, ask for them to read and comment. They sacrificed time to read your project.<br />
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Step 2: get out the salt. You will need at least one grain of it to take with each comment. You have to take into account that everyone has their own pre-established likes, dislikes, and idiosyncrasies that will color their perception of your work.<br />
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Step 3: Keep this advice from Neil Gaiman in mind:<br />
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When people say "This doesn't work for me," there is always a reason. However, the reason may be completely different than what they think it is. Pay attention to those things that are unsettling to your beta readers, but be aware that <b>their</b> solution is not necessarily <b>the</b> solution.<br />
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Step 4: Pray or meditate on it. I believe that God wants me to use my talents as a writer to help His children. Because of that, I also believe that He will direct me in the use of my writing, if I ask Him. That may not be your belief, but I promise if you take time to reflect on the things that your beta readers have told you, you can be more mindful of what changes you need to make and which ones are not necessary.<br />
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Step 5: Be true to yourself; true to your story. But don't be afraid to "kill your darlings" if necessary. IF NECESSARY. You don't have to. Sometimes one reader may not like something that may be perfectly wonderful to another. YOU get the final say.<br />
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Step 6: Do it all over again. Make changes, get feedback. Make more changes, get more feedback. Think of it as sanding furniture, or polishing a stone or a car... you refine, refine, refine, with finer grit sandpaper, until you can truly see the gem shining through.<br />
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What advice do YOU have for writers dealing with critiques? Post in the comments!</div>
Leannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02967382833556002531noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-54757507313042317752017-05-27T22:48:00.002-06:002017-05-27T22:48:50.110-06:00Wasted Fruit<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I have a hard-working peach tree in my backyard. It isn’t big enough for the kids to climb in yet, and it is still producing smallish, but oh-so-sweet fruit. Every year when it blooms, my heart gets happy and I start anticipating juicy heaven.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">All the birds in Arizona start spreading get the word, too. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Now there are nets you can put up to keep the birds out of the tree and away from most of the fruit. Our tree is too big now. I’ve seen the shiny hanging deterrents. My brother suggested hanging plastic balls that resembled the fruit to try and help them lose interest in our fruit. The thing is, every year we get very busy in the spring and don’t ever do all those things to bird-proof.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Usually, the birds exact their “bird tax” and there is plenty left for us. Not so much this year. This is what it looked like:</span></span></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: small;">Can you see all of the peaches in various states of bird-eaten desiccation?</span></td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">This picture, you can't see that all of those peaches are bird-pecked, or completely eaten right on the branch--all of the usable peaches have already been picked from this part. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">All that fruit, ruined. Wasted. It's maddening. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">There are a few things go we could have done to prevent this. They don’t matter at this point, and the reasons why we didn’t don’t matter either. When I look at my tree, and all of those peaches that could have blessed my family, my friends, my tastebuds.... the reasons don't matter. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We will either learn from this and take the necessary steps to prevent it next year, or we won’t and will lament the pillaging around May 2018 too. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">How often is it like this in life? We have so many blessing--some are things that we've worked hard for, others are just things that Heavenly Father has ordained for our good, waiting there for the taking. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We also have the "birds" of our lives--people, circumstances, whatever--that hover around, waiting for opportunities to ruin those blessings or at least prevent us from accessing them. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">There are steps we can take to prevent this from happening, fully or partially depending on the circumstance. We understand that life, just by its nature, is going to ruin some of our "fruit," but whether or not needless waste occurs is largely up to our efforts. </span></span></div>
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<span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Then, knowing that without action on our part, our blessings will be squandered, we do--nothing. Or not enough. Or not the right things. </span></span></div>
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<span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">What it is that we need to do is different for everyone, every circumstance. The reasons why we don't do what we know we should--those reasons don't matter when you come to a realization of what could have been had you only been diligent. </span></span></div>
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<span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Just a couple of months ago, President Thomas S. Monson gave us this challenge with a promise of blessings: </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">My dear associates in the work of the Lord, I implore each of us to prayerfully study and ponder the Book of Mormon each day. As we do so, we will be in a position to hear the voice of the Spirit, to resist temptation, to overcome doubt and fear, and to receive heaven’s help in our lives. </span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">What amazing blessings we are being promised here:</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We will be in a position to hear the voice of the Spirit</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We will be able to resist temptation</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We can overcome doubt and fear</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We can receive heaven's help in our lives</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">What do we need to do to safeguard that fruit? Prayerfully study and ponder the Book of Mormon each day. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">If we want those blessings, we have to do that work. If we don't, we will see those blessings squandered, hanging on the tree waiting for us, but dried up with the waiting. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">A few other blessings (and what we need to do to "obtain the fruit") from this last General Conference:</span><br />
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<li style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">“Your <span style="background-color: cyan;">power to do good as a group of God’s daughters </span>will depend, to a great degree on the <span style="background-color: cyan;">unity and love that exist among you</span>.” -Henry B. Eyring</span></li>
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<li style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">“<span style="background-color: magenta;">The Lord promises to direct our paths</span>, but for Him to do that, <span style="background-color: magenta;">we have to walk, trusting that he knows the way</span>.” -L. Whitney Clayton</span></li>
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<li style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">My beloved friends, my dear brothers and sisters in Christ, if we ever find ourselves living in fear or anxiety, or if we ever find that our own words, attitudes, or actions are causing fear in others, I pray with all the strength of my soul that we may <span style="background-color: yellow;">become liberated from this fear</span> by the divinely appointed antidote to fear: the <span style="background-color: yellow;">pure love of Christ</span>, for “perfect love casteth out fear.” --President Dieter L. Uchtdorf</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit;"><span style="background-color: lime;">Our service</span>—whether great or small—<span style="background-color: lime;">refines our spirits, opens the windows of heaven, and releases God’s blessings not only upon those we serve but upon us as well.</span> When we reach out to others, we can know with humble confidence that God acknowledges our service with approval and approbation. He smiles upon us as we offer these heartfelt acts of compassion, especially acts that are unseen and unnoticed by others.</span><span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit;"><span style="color: #147ea7;"> </span></span><span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit;">Each time we <span style="background-color: lime;">give of ourselves to others</span>, we take a <span style="background-color: lime;">step closer to becoming good and true disciples of the One who gave His all for us: our Savior.</span></span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">By the way, although I am approaching this from a spiritual point of view, we can extrapolate my poor wasted fruit saga to writing also. How many times could we reap some benefits, if we would just take action? We can always improve our craft, look for opportunities to expand our writing horizons, network, mentor, critique, accept critiques.... we never know what blessings may arise from taking action--or what fruit we are letting rot on the tree by standing still.</span></div>
Leannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02967382833556002531noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-35119254207579490092017-05-17T19:46:00.000-06:002017-05-17T19:46:06.920-06:00Book Review: Seeking Mansfield, by Kate Watson<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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was the debut of our lovely alumna Katy White's (aka Kate Watson)
novel <i>Seeking Mansfield</i>!</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Let's
start this review by talking about the things that I did today. First
of all, I am a super responsible adult type of human. So I definitely
did all of the adulty sorts of things I was supposed to. I definitely
didn't spend pretty much the whole day shooing my children outside to
play so I could read. I definitely didn't make hot dogs for lunch
because it was super fast and then I could go back to reading. I
totally didn't let the kids watch more TV than usual so I could
finish the book.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Nope.
I'm way more responsible than that.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">But
since I did manage to read the book while also being a fabulous
parent and adult, I am now equipped to review it. Hooray!</span></span></div>
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rating: 4/5. I really enjoyed it!</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Summary:
In this modern YA adaptation of <i>Mansfield Park</i>, Finley Price
is an aspiring teen director with a crappy past and an overdeveloped
sense of what she owes to her godparents, the Bertrams. Movie stat
heartthrob Harlan Crawford and his sister move in next door, and
Finley starts having to face all sorts of difficult things, including
love.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">What
I liked: It's been years, admittedly, since I read <i>Mansfield Park</i>,
and I think I would have a lot more compassion for Fanny Price than I
used to. But when I read it, I just found her to be too much of a
doormat. Finley Price is a wonderful modern remake of this character,
giving a lot more depth to who she is and how she ended up this way.
Also, I found her just much more likable.</span></span></div>
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alternating perspectives were fun, and I really loved Oliver. Again,
more than the original. Oliver was far less clueless than his Austen
counterpart. It's kind of refreshing to read boys who aren't complete
idiots and yet are subject to still being teenagers.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I
also appreciated watching Finley and Oliver talk themselves into
things that didn't make sense or fit them. It felt very real--"I'm
going to do this thing because it really seems like the sort of thing
I should want to do, even though I don't want to." Sigh.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Really,
I enjoyed the book immensely. It was a fun read that modernized a
character that lots of modern readers don't like. It also largely
avoided the thing I hated most about the 1999 movie adaptation (we'll
get to that below).</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">What
didn't work for me: I think I'm a bit like the original Fanny in that
I sometimes have a hard time accepting lots of shades of gray in
people. So, for example, I didn't like that Finley really didn't seem
bothered enough by Emma's behavior. I guess maybe I would have
preferred to see Emma be more like the original Mary Crawford, very
clearly a pretty awful person.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Other
considerations: The 1999 adaptation I referenced above has Fanny
Price tell Henry Crawford she's going to marry him (even though she
doesn't want to and has been morally repulsed by him all along).
Then, when she realizes she simply can't and tells him so, he sleeps
with someone else. Essentially the narrative is that if she simply
hadn't given in, he wouldn't have been a sleazebag. (Austen fans,
correct me if I'm wrong here, but my recollection is that the
original Fanny continually refused Henry, despite feeling awful about
it, because she had a seriously awesome moral backbone.) It was awful
and pretty much the worst narrative decision in the film (in my
less-than-humble opinion). Watson's Finley is in a different
situation in Seeking Mansfield, and while I don't admire some of her
taste in boys, I think she puts the woman-blaming narrative of
cheating where it belongs--in the trash.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Clean
rating: Yay for a teen romance that I would consider quite clean.
It's got a little bit of swearing (what I call the "lesser swear
words"), a couple OMGs (which is pretty much my least favorite
acronym ever, I admit), and I think one mention of sex? There's also
thematic content--alcoholism, abuse, PTSD, and such, so it's not for
younger readers, but it's also not dark.</span></span></div>
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should go pick it up and then be a completely responsible adult, like
me, and not binge read it all day. Like me.</span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-30490355115103471612017-05-13T22:22:00.000-06:002017-05-13T22:22:26.884-06:00The Pain in the Neck, or What I Learned This Week <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Quick story:<br />
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This week my sweet eleven-year-old son managed to roll out of his top bunk in his sleep, and landed on the six-inch-tall pile of dirty clothes on the floor but tweaked his neck. He spent the whole week miserable. I took him to Urgent Care just to make sure it wasn't anything more than a "tweak" and thankfully, that was affirmed by the doctor. She gave us some really awesome gel to use and taught him some great stretches. She told us that, even though it really hurts to do so, the best way to permanently relieve the pain is by gently stretching the area, and instead of holding everything as still as possible, to <i>move</i> it as much as possible. We left the office and I continued for the next few days to remind my son to move his head and neck, to do stretches, etc.<br />
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Two days later, after a night wherein the adorable four-year-old princess invaded our bed, I found myself with an inexplicable but excruciating pain in my upper back--one of those knots underneath the shoulder blade that is about impossible to get to. I commandeered some of the really awesome gel, and the husband gave me as much of a massage in that area as possible. I resigned myself to not doing the things I had planned, because how was I going to scrub two showers when I couldn't lift my arm?<br />
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The doctor's words came back to me: no matter how much it hurts, the best thing for you to do at this point is to <i>move it</i>. So, I did. At first I was glad that no one was in the room with me, because I swore <strike>a</strike> <strike>little</strike> more than a little and was making this whining noise that was quite unbecoming. Anyway, after a while, I did find that the pain lessened enough for me to start my chores (scrubbing the kids' shower was imperative, it's their job but it had been done poorly or not at all for long enough that it... well, you get the picture). After about an hour of scrubbing (I'm not exaggerating, and I was only half done--it was bad) I realized that it didn't hurt at all anymore. Moving really, really helped!<br />
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My point in this isn't to wallow in the pity of how terrible my kids' shower was (it was really, really bad. I soaked it in cleaner, scrubbed it, and then soaked and scrubbed it again). It's not even to whine about the pain or the fact that when my little girl sneaks into bed with us, I always feel like I was run over by a train the next day. While I was contemplating the fact that I would have not had the "move it and it will help" advice fresh on my mind had I not just been dealing with muscle pain for my boy, the Spirit whispered to me that this is an analogy for life in general.<br />
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We have trials, and they teach us things. They make us stronger. They make us more empathetic when other people go through the same things. They also give us knowledge that we can share with others who may find themselves in similar circumstances. In short, our trials are a gold mine if we can look beyond the pain and see them as learning--and teaching--experiences.<br />
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After all, the Savior himself suffered in Gethsemane to personally know how to succor us. In Alma 7, it explains that Jesus took upon himself the pains and afflictions of his people, that is, all of us, so that he would know according to the flesh how to succor his people. He could have known, in His head, by the Spirit, how to provide comfort. But there is something to be said for feeling the same pains--he wanted to physically know--according to the flesh--how our infirmities and trials make us <i>feel</i> so that he could truly know how to provide comfort and assistance to us. What love our Savior has for us!<br />
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This isn't a new way of looking at trials for me; but it is a good reminder that I needed this week.<br />
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In closing, I'd invite you to read <a href="https://www.lds.org/scriptures/bofm/alma/7?lang=eng" target="_blank">Alma 7</a> for one of the most beautiful descriptions of our Savior's mission and Atonement. And remember, our trials are there for a reason--they are our lessons in this school of life.<br />
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Leannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02967382833556002531noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-19691023149060376512017-05-06T22:00:00.000-06:002017-05-07T00:31:20.539-06:00Some Fun Writing Exercises <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
By Lacey Gunter<br />
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Published authors often say if you want a successful writing career you should be writing consistently, perhaps even daily. Sometimes though you get stumped in your current WIP and you don't really know what to write. I have already discussed ways to try get moving on your WIP again <a href="http://mormonmommywriters.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-change-in-perspective.html">here</a> and <a href="http://mormonmommywriters.blogspot.com/2013/11/stuck.html">here</a>. Sometimes though, what you really need is just a little break from your manuscript. when this happens writing exercises are a great way to keep you writing and maybe even generate a few new ideas. Here are a few writing exercises you might want to try next time you need a break, or even just for fun.<br />
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1. I call this one Beta Reader Blitz: Have you ever had a beta reader who didn't really 'get' your manuscript and insisted you should change it to sound more like a different genre (like maybe the genre they love writing in). Well just for fun or practice, do just that. Take you current manuscript, or even a much loved book and try and tweak it to fit a different genre and write a synopsis for it or rewrite one of the chapters.<br />
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2. This one I call Sensational Reporting: Go to your favorite news website and find a report on a situation or event that is just developing. It's best if you find an article where some important aspect of the story has not yet been discovered or reported on. Then write a new article filling in those details or explaining the event or situation using you imagination. It can be realistic or completely farcical, just have fun with it.<br />
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3.This one is the opposite of a modern remake: Take a modern day story, like something that has happened in real life in the past 5 years, or a story that takes place in modern or future times and try to remake to fit in a different era in history, in particular, a past era. Write a synopsis for the story or a chapter.<br />
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4. This one can be funny or romantic or perhaps even a horror: Take a much loved female character from one story and a popular male character from another story and write about the two going on a date.<br />
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Or come up with some writing exercises of your own. Either way, have fun and just keep writing.</div>
Lacey http://www.blogger.com/profile/00821814832469246760noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-32877721024088690192017-05-03T20:08:00.000-06:002017-05-03T20:08:49.076-06:00Afghans or stuffed toys When I first learned to crochet as a kid, I thought that serious crocheters must make afghans or tablecloths or wall hangings--big, grand things. I didn't start with big stuff, but I felt like I was working towards that.<br />
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Fast forward many years and I've gotten a few afghans under my belt, but I start to realize I don't really like making afghans. They're big and heavy and take too much time and yarn. But I really like making stuffed animals. They're cute and little and fun to give as gifts, and I can finish them in under ten hours.<br />
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I used to think that the only thing for me to write was novels. Anything else was sort of just a stop on the way to novels. But this past year I've dealt in short fiction a lot, and I've started to realize it's fun! I enjoy it. It's easier to experiment with because you can try and fail without writing 50,000 or more words before your realize it's not working. There are places you can submit short fiction too, which just makes it more fun!<br />
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Both afghans and stuffed toys are valid crochet projects. Both novels and short stories are great in writing. Sometimes you just need variety. So if you're feeling burned out on your current type of project, try something new! It might turn out that you like making stuffed toys?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-9416154671272423582017-04-30T01:01:00.000-06:002017-04-30T01:01:06.575-06:00Some Inspiring Thoughts from a Great Man<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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One would think that with me having a rare Saturday off, I would have time to post something inspiring and wonderful Well, I am posting something inspiring and wonderful, but it's coming from the mind of President Dieter F. Uchtdorf. I was thinking about this quote I read on Facebook and how genuine it is while being so profound. So I thought, I need to just gather some quotes from this great man and just soak up the wisdom and grace from them.<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">"Sometimes I think we misunderstand obedience. We may see obedience as an end in itself, rather than a means to an end. Perhaps there is a different metaphor that can explain why we obey the commandments of God. Maybe obedience is not so much the process of bending, twisting, and pounding our souls into something we are not. Instead, it is the process by which we discover what we truly are made of.”</span></blockquote>
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I love this because it reminds me that the purpose of obedience isn't some power trip God has, that we have to do what he says just because He's the boss. Our Father asks us to obey to teach us who were are meant to be.<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #181818; font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px;">“Think of the purest, most all-consuming love you can imagine. Now multiply that love by an infinite amount—that is the measure of God’s love for you. God does not look on the outward appearance. I believe that He doesn’t care one bit if we live in a castle or a cottage, if we are handsome or homely, if we are famous or forgotten. Though we are incomplete, God loves us completely. Though we are imperfect, He loves us perfectly. Though we may feel lost and without compass, God love encompasses us completely. He loves us because He is filled with an infinite measure of holy, pure, and indescribable love. We are important to God not because of our résumé but because we are His children. He loves every one of us, even those who are flawed, rejected, awkward, sorrowful, or broken. God’s love is so great that He loves even the proud, the selfish, the arrogant, and the wicked. What this means is that, regardless of our current state, there is hope for us. No matter our distress, no matter our sorrow, no matter our mistakes, our infinitely compassionate Heavenly Father desires that we draw near to Him so that He can draw near to us.”</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #181818; font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px;"> </span> </blockquote>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #181818; font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px;">“Though we are incomplete, God loves us completely. Though we are imperfect, He loves us perfectly. Though we may feel lost and without compass, God's love encompasses us completely. ... He loves every one of us, even those who are flawed, rejected, awkward, sorrowful, or broken.”</span></blockquote>
It's so important to recognize that we are ALL failures without our Savior, and that God loves us anyway. He loves us because He loves us--there's nothing we can do to change that.<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #181818; font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px;">“What you create doesn’t have to be perfect. So what if the eggs are greasy or the toast is burned? Don’t let fear of failure discourage you.”</span></blockquote>
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There are so many more but I wanted to end with this one--I remember the talk where President Uchtdorf urged us to create. I think we often get caught in the delusion that we have to come up with perfection if it's going to be worth anything. This quote reminds me that much of what helps me grow as a writer, as a mother, as a creator of things, is learned in the doing--and that THAT is sort of the point.<br />
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There you go, just a few of the many inspiring quotes from President Uchtdorf--- I hope that you feel a little more inspired for having read them.<br />
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Leannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02967382833556002531noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-53492455812471724032017-04-08T22:00:00.000-06:002017-04-08T23:46:44.916-06:00Subbing in the Rain<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
By Lacey Gunter<br />
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Unless you're that strange freak of nature that submits your first manuscript and magically turns it into a sale with the first person you submit it to, you will inevitable have to face rejection and the pain and disappointment that come with it, if you're seeking to get published.<br />
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Let's face it, rejection is painful. It hurts a little less when the rejection is personalized and encourages you how and in what direction to go, but even that is still disappointing. I wish I could give you some magic formula for avoiding rejection, but if I knew one I would already be using it myself.<br />
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When you know you're getting yourself into a likely painful situation, it's usually wise to take some time to think about how you can minimize or manage the pain. This is important when you are querying or submitting a manuscript because it's easy to get depressed or discouraged and throw in the towel before the fight is over. <br />
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If we think about rejections as rain drops and the ensuing disappointment and pain as getting wet, the goal would be to get through the rain storm as dry as possible. Obviously, we could use an umbrella, but to me the equivalent of that would be to just not sub in the first place, which would get us nowhere. So assuming it is just us and the rain, how do we get the least wet?<br />
There has been much debate about which gets you wetter, walking or running in the rain. The most detailed research suggests running is better, but what matters more here is that both walking or running are going to be better than just sitting down in one spot and hoping for the rain to stop.<br />
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So how does this apply to subbing? If all you are focusing on is this one manuscript and getting it published, you may be simply sitting down and waiting for the rain to drench you in despair. You may get lucky and the rain storm will be short and the sun will shine on you and dry out your despair. But if you aren't, as most of us are not, the rain may drench you so bad you decide is it not worth the pain and hassle.<br />
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The better plan is to get up and get moving; start on a new project, explore some new ideas, immerse yourself in a new story, or even a few. This way you are actively moving toward your goal. You have more than one prospect and a rejection on one doesn't seem quite so devastating. Your chances of reaching your goals of getting published will improve and you'll have something to distract yourself from the pain of rejection. Plus, maybe you'll find someone else running in the rain and you can just run behind them and let them get most of the drops. 😜<br />
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Lacey http://www.blogger.com/profile/00821814832469246760noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-66506761914643930692017-04-05T19:03:00.000-06:002017-04-05T19:03:21.107-06:00Growth There's been a lot of talk in social sciences lately about the growth mindset versus a fixed mindset. The idea is that if you have a growth mindset, you feel like you are capable of changing and developing new skills. A fixed mindset suggests that you can only be what you're already good at.<br />
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The subject comes up a lot in education, and I've become particularly aware of it as I try to teach my children various skills, like math and reading. Consider the difference between saying, "You did a great job. You're so smart" and "You did a great job. You worked really hard." Smartness feels static. Either you are or you aren't. So if that's why you did a good job, then there's little point in trying and persisting even when you fail at first.<br />
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I have loved applying this perspective to teaching my children because I think it's crucial for them to realize that struggling with a concept now doesn't mean they always will. Today my child was in tears over skip counting, poor dear, so we stopped and I reminded her of how far she'd come. I turned to there beginning of her math book and talked about how she's started out just counting objects and circling the correct number. Now she does basic addition, can count and write large numbers fairly well, and has better number sense than she realizes.<br />
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When we turned back to those first pages, though, and talked about how far she'd come, I could see her visibly begin to relax. She really needed to see that she was growing and improving. Once she saw that, I think it helped click for her that she could keep going.<br />
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We talk about this perspective with teaching children, but I wonder how well we apply it to ourselves. When I look back at old writing of mine, I'm far more likely to cringe than to say, "Look how far I've come!" When we think about what we're good at now, do we think we'll never be good in any other areas? Or do we look at our weak areas and see opportunities for growth?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-12355744868462633222017-04-02T02:30:00.000-06:002017-04-02T02:31:10.936-06:00Distracted Driving (Saturday's post on Sunday)<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-size: x-small;">by Jewel Leann Williams</span><br />
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I commute for about 45 minutes to work, down I-10, a pretty busy freeway even "against traffic" (opposite direction of the rush hours). Recently they started doing construction, the first phase of which was to close the freeway and narrow the lanes to their bare minimum width, in order to provide room for what they are doing. As I zip along these new, narrower lanes, I feel my knuckles cramping and growing white from the grip I have on my steering wheel. The reason? The people in the lanes around me who keep swerving into my lane because they are on their cell phones (while going 75+ miles per hour, no less). Do they not think we can't see the glow of the phone as they keep glancing down?<br />
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There's just no room for error with the lanes narrowed. People need to be paying MORE attention, not less.<br />
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Not that people should be on their phones on the freeway (or anywhere else behind the wheel, for that matter) but the stakes are higher when the slightest swerve puts you in the wrong lane and into someone else's vehicle.<br />
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Distraction can be deadly.<br />
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We just had the Saturday session of General Conference, and I was sitting with my family on our living room floor, trying to listen to the leaders of the church. Lately I've felt like it is supremely important to listen to what is being said--not that it's hasn't always been important--just with the way the world is spinning, it feels more important now. The lanes are narrowing--the "way" is getting narrower, so to speak, and the stakes are getting higher for swerving.<br />
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So I'm trying to listen, and the kids are spinning on their behinds on the floor, or fighting over a pillow, or a blanket, or a spot on the couch, or I'm having to bark at someone to wake up and pay attention. Meanwhile, I keep turning to my husband with, "What'd he just say?"<br />
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Distractions. Ugh. I wish I could've listened better, absorbed the feeling of the talks more, instead of only kinda sorta hearing it, and then reading it later. Thank goodness for the conference videos!!<br />
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But that got me thinking.... how often do we go through life, distracted? I mean, not just the social media, the OTHER media, the everything going on that keeps us only halfway living life.<br />
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I mean, distracted from our covenants so that we are only halfway living them, swerving back and forth, dangerously close to crossing into inactivity, or complacency, or rebellion....<br />
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Distracted from the true nature of the Gospel, marching in lockstep with rules and social norms without remembering the Atonement and the plan of happiness and the true "work and glory" of the Father....<br />
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Distracted from raising sons and daughters of God, instead worrying about raising kids who star on soccer teams, or who excel at (insert thing here)....<br />
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Distracted from revelation<br />
Distracted from the power of the priesthood<br />
Distracted from who we are<br />
Distracted FROM a million things that really matter, by the BILLIONS of things that really, in the eternities, don't matter at all.<br />
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Distraction can be deadly.<br />
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How grateful I am for General Conference, and for weekly meetings and for great friends, for the scriptures and for daily personal prayer, all of these things to keep us in the lines--in the Way. Let's do our best to regain our focus and not get distracted!</div>
Leannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02967382833556002531noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-77486617756388093472017-03-25T22:00:00.000-06:002017-03-26T01:07:33.432-06:00Summer of Service<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
By Lacey Gunter<br />
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After hearing some lovely and inspiring women speak tonight I was reminded of the value of service in creating a happy life. It inspired me to again strive to do more service in my life. Not only is this an important consideration for busy moms, but I believe it is critical for our children.<br />
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Our kid-centric parenting culture is obsessed with making sure kids are having fun. I feel we do a disservice to our children if we model that this is the only way to experience joy in our lives. At this time of year when parents are anticipating summer and signing kids up for engaging summer and sports camps, and planning their elaborate vacations to theme parks and playlands, it might be beneficial to stop and think. Amidst all this time and resources we are putting into making sure our kids are brilliant, talented and fun-loving, are we putting in the same amount of consideration on how to help our kids become more thoughtful, generous and loving towards others?<br />
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I used to put together a summer play group for my kids and the kids in our neighborhood. I put a lot of time and effort into finding or creating fun and engaging activities for the group. But last year the thought occurred to me that maybe my kids need less awesome play-dates with their friends and more character building experiences helping those experiencing a trial or sacrificing for those less fortunate. So now I try to put together a kid friendly summer service group.<br />
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The first time I did it, last summer, I thought I needed to have projects that were big and certain to make a difference in many people's lives, which was a little challenging as I didn't have very many ideas for how a bunch of young kids could do that. But overtime, I have realized that even small but personal acts of service can make a big difference in both the people you are serving and the children doing the service. Something as simple as drawing pictures and making love or thank you notes for the people in your neighborhood can create a feeling of love and happiness in your neighbors for several weeks or even several months. At the same time, it is a completely manageable task for even a toddler, with just a little parental help, that can spark a joy for service that will lead a child to want to do it again and again.<br />
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I am looking forward to doing a summer service group again this year. The projects probably won't be as big and monumental, but I am confident they will still be life changing. </div>
Lacey http://www.blogger.com/profile/00821814832469246760noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7814771751990061325.post-34619771399013505702017-03-22T13:28:00.001-06:002017-03-22T13:28:42.112-06:00Carrying Rocks<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- a
post by <a href="http://calloohcallaycallay.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Jeanna Mason Stay</a></span></i></div>
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">My kids and I were parked and heading off to the dentist's
office when I looked at my toddler to see what was taking him so long to get
out of the car. In each of his hands he was carrying a rock about the size and
shape of a hot dog bun. </span></div>
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I lifted him out of the car so he didn’t have to let go, and
we were on our hurried way to the dentist (late, I confess). </span></div>
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When we got to the office, he set his rocks down on the
little table in the waiting room and happily played with the toys. I couldn't
just leave these giant rocks there, though, so when we got called back to the
offices, I picked up the rocks and stuffed them in my purse to dispose of
later. </span></div>
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Fast forward a couple of weeks. </span></div>
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I was hunting for something else in my purse when my fingers
brushed against something rough. I investigated and of course I found the rocks
there. I'd meant to dispose of them, but I just forgot. I’d been carrying rocks
around in my purse for weeks!</span></div>
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I tend to find metaphors everywhere, and I couldn't help
wondering what sort of rocks we might be carrying around in our lives without
even noticing. Things we meant to deal with but then just let them slide.
Attitudes about ourselves that we maybe meant to examine for truth but just
began to believe without even realizing it. Beliefs about the way the world
works that keep us from achieving and being more. At first they don’t seem big
or important (after all, I didn’t notice those rocks for a couple weeks!), but
maybe they add up.</span></div>
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Am I carrying around rocks? That professor who told me I
seemed dismissive of others—did I start to believe that I was just plain bad
with people?* What about all those years I spent thinking I had ugly, muddy
brown eyes when in reality they were green?** </span></div>
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">What rocks are weighing you down? And why are you waiting to
get rid of them?</span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">*
This is a true story, though oversimplified. His full comments were partially
right and partially wrong, and I took them so very badly, but that was only
partially his fault. Essentially, we both handled that whole situation badly,
but that has nothing to do with this post. So I’ll just turn it into an
excessively long footnote instead.</span></i></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">** This, weirdly
enough, is also a true story. And for the record, I love brown eyes—all my
children and my hubby have gorgeous ones—but in my mind my eyes were like dying
grass and mud being stomped on. You know the <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwuc5k-LKFU" target="_blank">opening credits scene</a> from </span></i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">Joe vs. the Volcano<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">?
That’s how I felt about my eyes.</i></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17152160686978434157noreply@blogger.com0