Showing posts with label Jessie Oliveros. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jessie Oliveros. Show all posts

Monday, July 25, 2011

Bedtime Block

I have lots of stories inside my head. I am a writer. I want to write all these stories. But...I'm TERRIBLE at telling bedtime stories. I've written two children's books, so you'd think I have it in me.

It doesn't help, of course, that my son is so particular about his stories. If he grows wings in his story, then he might scream "This is not a flying story!" Or the garbage can may be allowed to grow legs and try to eat him. And a tree may grow legs without protest and also try to eat him. But the moon growing legs and trying to eat him?? Forget it! Not a lot of license for creativity here.

Yet, he BEGS me for stories in spite of my constant failures to produce. Tonight he asked me for one, but we'd already had a very long, drawn-out bedtime. I told him that I just didn't have it in me, but I would think about it and tell him one at breakfast.

So tell me ladies! Give me some good bedtime story ideas because I'm all out!

Monday, June 6, 2011

Ere You Left Your Room This Morning

It is so easy to fall into a routine without prayer. Well, at least for me. I wake up in the morning to the sound of my baby crying...or laughing in in her crib. My son wakes up. I change the baby's diaper. I feed my children cereal and fruit. Well, the cereal part. The fruit part takes a little more encouragement. We go on a walk, at which some point my son stops his bike and refuses to go on. (Or he has a meltdown over something important. Today it was over air conditioning vents.) Then the day explodes with activities...and well, did I think to pray? No, usually not.

Nighttime prayers are easier because you are given a moment to pause. In the morning, you have to make that pause. Which means waking up before the baby cries or walking away from the day for a moment and hitting your knees. I know that the mornings I do pray, my spirit is lifted a little. I see everything from a higher perspective that just makes more sense.

How do you fit prayers into your morning routine?

Monday, May 23, 2011

Oh the Drama!

Oh the melodrama of a four year-old when he doesn't get to stay at Grammy's house to swim! Some parents might listen and laugh when their child goes into a angry rant. Me? I listened and laughed AND wrote it down because that's what writer moms do, right?

I DON'T like eating anymore.
I don't like going downstairs.
I don't like looking at you.
I don't like walls in houses anymore. I am going to go upstairs and stay up there forever and FIRE UP THE HOUSE.
I DON'T like soda pop.
I am going to throw my covers down and break apart my bed!
I am going to go outside and KNOCK out the window. Then I am going to go play with BAD people. I am going to stay on a chair and WATCH them!
When it is summertime I am NOT going to go in the water. I am going to SIT on the chair.
I am NOT GOING TO EAT ANYMORE and I am going to die.

Not the bad people! I love my son. Any melodrama around your house lately?

Monday, May 16, 2011

Is Bedtime the Writetime?

After considering a few different topics late this Sunday night, I've settled on one very close to my heart: Bedtime. I'm not talking about the bedtime of small people who need stories and songs and books and prayers and kisses and drinks of water (but not too many sips because how many times can one mom wash bedsheets?). No, I'm talking about OUR bedtime.

Before I really immersed myself in writing, I went to bed at the reasonable hour of ten o'clock at night. (This gave me enough time to do my dishes AND watch House Hunters.) I had a child who woke up throughout the night still, but I managed to lay down with the rest of the world. Then when I started writing (and okay, blogging) bedtime and I were no longer friends.

This is a shame because I like sleep. I really feel I need sleep. And I've struggled a lot with this because I also really like to write. (You may refer to another post on choosing sleeping over writing. It's not pretty.) Does it have to be one or the other, though? I mean, if I managed my time better couldn't I sleep AND write? (And does staying up late REALLY shave minutes off my life like my mom says?)

I know I'm not alone because there is that little organization of women many of us are involved in-American NIGHT WRITERS Association. So what I'd really like to know is how late are you up? It would be nice to know who is up burning the midnight oil with me. Me? Midnight has been my average bedtime, but I've been shooting for eleven o'clock lately. Do some of you manage to stay up later than this AND function like a normal person the next day? If so, I might be jealous because THINK OF ALL YOU CAN GET DONE! (I really felt like John Travolta in Phenomenon wasted a lot of those nighttime hours by NOT writing a book.)

(Of course, while I'd like to say that EVERY late night is on account of writing, it isn't. There is laundry, movies with Husband, the occasional baking of chocolate-chip cookies at ten thirty, and Children. I'm sure that my children are involved in a conspiracy to rob me of my sleep because often JUST as I lay down to sleep, he wants a drink of water or she wakes up. I may have also blogged about this.) (Wow, three posts in my blogging life on sleep. i need a nap.)

Monday, May 9, 2011

Acid Rots Teeth, In Case You Want To Know

Some days you might think you have this mothering thing ALL figured out. Then...your son gets nine cavities. But not from too much juice or chewy candies. That would be easy. He gets nine cavities from acid reflux.

You see, for weeks my son has been making this burping noise. I thought he was just a kid that discovered he could make himself burp. Because you know, burping is SO cool. But all this time, he was dealing with something bigger than a bad habit (which is what I called it) (which makes me a very sensitive mother) (who is prone to sarcasm). So now we are going to see a GI specialist...and another dentist to be sure First Dentist really needs to do ALL that work to a little guy who is going to lose all his teeth in six years.

I may have been a little anxious about this the last few days. What if this is a chronic problem for him? Will he have to be on medication for long? And oh those dental bills! (I've had a pretty healthy existence, so a little stomach acid threw me through a mothering loop.) But my son, my faitful little son...as soon as we got home from the dentist he asked for a Priesthood blessing.

Children are so good at putting life into perspective.

Monday, May 2, 2011

Can't Live Without It

In my never-ending search for balance, I recently attempted to give up reading. Something had to give, and for awhile that something was reading. I stayed AWAY from the library (which was hurting my son much more than it was hurting me). Books were NOT my friends because I was staying up too late reading them. Plus, think of all the WRITING I could be doing when I wasn't READING!

However, I'd say I did the same amount of writing and STILL went to bed late. (What happened to all that lost time? I don't know. I'll never know. I've done similar give-something-up experiments before, and I'm convinced there is some kind of time goblin that eats large portions of my life.)

With the insatiable desire to read SOMETHING I turned to the books that had sat much too long by my bed waiting to be read. I just finished Elizabeth Gaskell's Cranford. And now I'm reading Daphne Du Murier's Rebecca. (Both re-reads and worthy of a second visit.) (Both obviously not YA fiction, which is why they sat too long by my bed.) And this week...we're going to the library.

Have you ever tried to give up reading? Writing? Blogging? Chocolate-chip cookie dough?

Monday, April 18, 2011

The Same Church

We moved our family from Kansas to Texas a few months ago, and as I sat in Sacrament Meeting today I thought about the sameness of our church from one state to the other (from one country to the other for that matter!) In our new ward, the people may be different, but we still have Sacrament Meeting and Sunday School. We still listen to the same Sacrament prayers and sing the same hymns. We still have a bishop and his counselors. My husband still goes to Priesthood and I still go to Relief Society. And thank goodness, there is still a Primary where my son can sing the songs he loves and attend Sharing Time and CTR 4. And he can still feel that same Spirit WHEREVER he is attending church.

This sameness has made my son's transition easier. I mean, he is ALWAYS happy when he leaves Primary--there is a little hop in his step and a big smile on his face. (And I can't resist adding my son told me today in Primary he had tears in his eyes but not for very long because he wiped them away and nobody saw because they were focusing on their jobs.)

I also love that we can band together on the Internet as sisters in Zion and talk about the same Relief Society lessons and the same gospel principles and same General Conference and essentially...the same goals. I participated in the second annual LDS Writers Blogfest last week, and it was fantastic! 23 LDS writers blogged about their favorite conference talk. Here is my the link list if you are interested in checking them out:

Annette Lyon: “Desire”
Annie Cechini: “The Spirit of Revelation”
Ben Spendlove: “The Atonement Covers All Pain”
Chantele Sedgwick: “LDS Women Are Incredible!”
Charity Bradford: “LDS Women Are Incredible!”
Jackee Alston: “The Eternal Blessings of Marriage”
Jenilyn Tolley: “What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be?”
Jennifer McFadden: “Establishing a Christ-Centered Home”
Jessie Oliveros: “Establishing a Christ-Centered Home”
Jolene Perry: “It’s Conference Once Again”
Jordan McCollum: “What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be?”
Kasey Tross: “Guided by the Holy Spirit”
Kayeleen Hamblin: “Become as a Little Child”
Kelly Bryson: “The Atonement Covers All Pain”
Krista Van Dolzer: “Opportunities to Do Good”
Melanie Stanford: “What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be?”
Michelle Merrill: “The Eternal Blessings of Marriage”
Myrna Foster: “Opportunities to Do Good”
Nisa Swineford: “Desire”
Sallee Mathews: “The Eternal Blessings of Marriage”
Sierra Gardner: “The Atonement Covers All Pain”
Tamara Hart Heiner: “Waiting on the Road to Damascus”
The Writing Lair: “Waiting on the Road to Damascus”

We are such a power out there! There were only 23 particapting in this blogfest but there are so many of us. And given that we are all one day going to be published (you know it is true) what a mark we can leave on the world!

Monday, April 11, 2011

How My Son Learned to Enjoy the Scriptures

When I started reading the scriptures to my son, I'd read only a verse or two. His mind was on more important things like pulling on his baby sister's limbs and what can I eat next? After our very succinct scripture reading, I'd repeat the verses in a way a four year-old might understand. (After awhile, he caught on and started interrupting my reading with, "Yes, but what does it MEAN?)

Lately I've found a great online tool that has sparked his interest in the scriptures much better than his boring mom ever did. Remember the scripture storybooks we read as children? There are now narrated videos on lds.org you can watch with the storybook pictures. My son loves it. He's always excited to watch another, and he's learning his stories.

Now this fascination with scripture stories is a blessing to see, but er...it's not so much Moses or Nephi or Captain Moroni that he cares for.

No. It's the...

River of Blood!
Goliath!
Laman and Lemuel!
Evil King Noah!
Korihor!

You get the picture. Whenever I pick out a new story, he asks, "Are there BAD GUYS in it?" Yes, my son only cares for the bad guys in the scriptures, and I can only hope it is not because he wants to emulate them.

Whatever gets him reading the scriptures, right?

(You can also find pages from the storybooks at the same link. Really, if you get started you will find an explosion of tools for your children on lds.org. Some of you may already know this, but as a not-yet seasoned mom, the children's side of our church's website is still pretty new and exciting to me.)

Monday, March 28, 2011

Writer of Many Colors

Remember the sand art you made as a child when you would pour different colors of sand into a glass jar, creating swirls and layers--your very own rainbow? (Until you poured it all out to try again, but the sand just mixed into sort of a grayish color.)(Very much beside the point.)

As writers, I think we'd all agree that we have three colors filling our glass jars, although the amount and pattern differ between each of us: natural talent (sort of a greenish, earthy tone), love of writing (definitely purple and NOT pink), and drive (fiery, sunrise red).

I don't think that it's possible for a writer to have only one. You just can't have one without the other. Even if your jar is filled with earthy, enviable green, you need a mix of love and drive to bring your talent to life.

I feel like my jar is about three-fifths purple, one-fifth green, one-fifth red, and one-fifth chocolate-chip cookie dough (totally necessary for writing). (Wait a second, how many fifths make one whole?) What about yours?

Monday, March 21, 2011

Our Creative Potential

I've always found some venue for creativity...piano, scrapbooking, crochet, a small and unsuccessful flirtation with oil paints. But it is only since I started writing that I've realized how important creating is to my spirit. It buoys me up to a higher plane and helps me see beyond today.

Writing gives me energy and vision. It teaches me more about goal-setting. It teaches me (and is still trying to teach me) about balance.

I really feel that creative expression makes us better, and I'm always encouraging my sisters to find something...sewing, dancing, cooking...something that they can call their own.

In an earlier post this month, Amber shared an quote by Elder Uchtdorf, but it really stuck with me and I'd like to share it again.

"The more you trust and rely upon the Spirit, the greater your capacity to create. That is your opportunity in this life and your destiny in the life to come. Sisters, trust and rely on the Spirit. As you take the normal opportunities of your daily life and create something of beauty and helpfulness, you improve not only the world around you but also the world within you." - Dieter F. Uchtdorf

I love that because he addresses us, Sisters, who have been given that capacity to create. And even if, as moms, we really find that we don't have much time to write or (insert other creative hobby)...how many infinite opportunities are we given during the day?

We create new stories at bedtime.
We create new ways to teach.
We create new dishes for picky eaters.
We create silly songs and amazing birthday cakes.
We create new places to put our children in time-out. (Couldn't resist. That's been my dilemma lately.)

How do you find yourself using your creative potential during the day? What other creative hobbies do you have besides writing?

Monday, March 14, 2011

Join the Mormon Writer Blogfest!

Recently I received an email invite for Mormon Writer Blogfest (the Second). Some of you may have already heard about this, but with the go-ahead from organizer, Krista Van Dolzer, I wanted to post a general invite on MMW to all who are interested.

Here is an excerpt from the email:

Last year, I organized a Mormon Writer Blogfest in which LDS writers from around the country blogged about gospel-related topics on a specific day and linked to everybody else’s posts. Since the first blogfest turned out so well, I’m organizing another.

I’m planning to hold this year’s blogfest on the second Tuesday in April, April 12. Last year, we blogged about basic doctrines of the gospel, but this year, I thought it would be great if everybody blogged about their favorite general conference talk from the upcoming April 2011 conference.


Are you in? Here is a great chance for the force that is LDS writers to bear testimony. If you would like to participate, you can email Krista at kvandolzer (at) gmail (dot) com. As the time draws near, she will send you a list of all participating bloggers so that you can link to them in your post. And if you know any other LDS writers who may not read MMW, pass the word on!

Monday, February 21, 2011

Why I Like Shannon Hale

Before beginning this post, I did my homework. I entered "Shannon Hale" in the search bar so that nobody could say, "We've already talked about her, NEW GIRL." Well, I think I might be the first if you don't count the link to Shannon Hale's writing tips in the sidebar.

The thing is, I recently finished the last of Shannon Hale's young adult fiction collection. I'd already read the Books of Bayern and Princess Academy (for which she can claim a Newbery Honor). When I finished Book of A Thousand Days last week, it just capped off my great opinion of Shannon Hale as an author. Her stories are magical and layered, and her writing is like a beautiful song that you want to close your eyes to as you listen and think of NOTHING else.

My favorite book of hers? Probably a toss-up between Goose Girl and Princess Academy, although I really enjoyed her adult book, Austenland, and I'm looking forward to her sequel, Midnight in Austenland. And if you can't read one of her books right now, her website and blog are equally entertaining. (And also really, REALLY detailed. You could get lost for hours.)

Who is your favorite LDS author? (There are so many now I can't keep track.)

Monday, February 14, 2011

To Love and New Beginnings

Happy Valentine’s Day! I’m Jessie Oliveros, your new Monday girl. A quick introduction because I know you have sugar cookies to bake and chocolates to eat (and diapers to change and children to feed and noses to wipe…)

I grew up in Kansas, attended BYU, graduated with a degree in Nursing, and married the cute counselor at EFY. I worked as a cardiac nurse until one husband’s graduate degree and two children later, I officially became a stay-at-home mom.

Which is the best job in the WORLD. I think.

I’ve always read. And read. And read. I had nerdy glasses and frizzy hair and a boy in sixth grade called me the human computer. Oh yes, and I read ALL THE TIME. I was the coolest kid on the block.

I really picked up on writing in college, but officially decided to pursue it two years ago. (And incidentally, started blogging about the same time.) Since then I have written the first draft of my YA book, Pieces of Moon, and have since been working on the Rewrite That Never Ends (because I have diapers to change and children to feed and noses to wipe.)

And in honor Valentine’s Day and because my picture is not yet up on the sidebar, here is a picture of my husband and me before we got married and got old.



I’ve been around since the first generation of MMW’s, and I’d have to say that stumbling across this blog was very fortuitous because it became my launching point into the blogosphere. Some of my favorite blogging friends were found right here, and I’m looking forward to being part of it now.

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