Showing posts with label writing time. Show all posts
Showing posts with label writing time. Show all posts

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Sacrifice Brings Forth the Blessings of Heaven

by Katy White

A few weeks ago, I received a voicemail from a representative in my stake asking if I would substitute teach seminary during the first week of November.  I can't tell you what my first thought was, because, honestly, there were a few competing ones.  On the one hand, being a seminary teacher is my dream calling.  I love working with the youth and I love studying and teaching the Gospel.  On the other hand, it's November, and as you've heard ad nauseam, it's NaNoWriMo.  And for the first time in my life, I'm participating in it and bent on finishing.  And on the, um, third hand?  It's 6 AM seminary.  Which means getting up in the 5's, something I vowed never to do again once I quit working unless it involved a cute, screaming little munchkin.

So I was torn.  I knew I wanted to teach seminary, but I also knew that I wanted to devote all of my spare time to writing for the month of November.  During that few seconds of hesitation (that's really all it was, thankfully), this line from the hymn, "Praise to the Man," came into my head:  "sacrifice brings forth the blessings of heaven."  I knew that the sacrifice I would make if I committed to teaching seminary would be minimal; it wouldn't compare to the countless, important sacrifices that people make every day as they live lives that are far more challenging than my current state.  But I knew, too, that Heavenly Father isn't concerned with our comparative obedience and sacrifices.  The little things count to him.

I returned that voicemail quickly, telling the representative that I would be happy to teach seminary.  Then I prayed to the Lord that I would find the right balance between studying and preparing for lessons and developing my writing talent through the NaNo challenge.  I felt great at the end of that prayer, like Heavenly Father was only too happy to help me find that balance if I would let him.

I've only taught a few days so far as I write this post, but I'm already thrilled with the balance.  I've felt excited each of the mornings I've taught seminary so far, and I've been very happy with how receptive the kids have been to the Spirit and to the lessons.  I've managed to keep up on my NaNo writing and, thanks to a writer's retreat Friday night and all day Saturday with the lovely and talented Gina Denny, I'm actually a few thousand words ahead of my goal!  So far, I've had a clear vision of where I should go next, and I pray every day for continued help from the Lord.

I don't know what will happen with this novel, but I know that Heavenly Father is blessing me in ways that I wouldn't have deserved had I turned down the call to serve in this manner.  Sacrificing writing time for service time has been a pleasure and a blessing, and I hope that I can remember this next time I'm asked to serve, however great or small the request.

“There are many of us that are willing to do great things for the Lord, but few of us are willing to do little things.”
– D.L. Moody   

Saturday, June 23, 2012

Saturday So What: Mommy Writer's Guilt

I have an epic case of Mommy Writer's Guilt. I am neck deep in revisions and the changes that I thought would be easy, have ended up altering the entire structure of my book. Characters are falling by the wayside.  Lost and forgotten.  Including the two most important characters... my kids.

I have an almost 3 yr old and a 5 and half yr old. I'm worried that for the last week and the next one to come, they are orphans. My husband is going to school full time and in the middle of finals. When he's home, he's locked in his office.And I have spent at least 40 hours this week making the editorial revisions. Trying to meet my deadline in a week and a half.

If I don't lock myself away, then I am constantly distracted by the screaming and guts flying everywhere. Don't worry-- it was just the Teddy Bear's. He pulled through the reconstructive surgery. If I wait until they are asleep, I can only make it until 10 oclock before my brain turns to mush.

To make matters worse, next week I start school again too. For five hours a day, the little ones are going to be shipped off to grandma's, summer camp, or whoever else I can get to take them. I feel horrible. Up until this year, I have been a stay at home mom who's main task of the day was making sure the kids had bathtime.

 I am used to spending every waking moment with my kids. They still follow me to the bathroom. Now I'm seeing them less and less. Normally, I try not to let my WIP take time from my kids. I write during preschool or dance class. But schools out, and the deadline is looming.

Am I just making excuses by saying that it's only temporary? Just another week and then when I'm home.. I'm all theirs? Or am I horrible mommy neglecting my kids?

Do you struggle with writing and other pursuits getting in the way of family time? What do you do? Any thoughts or comments would be appreciated. Sorry that this isn't my normal upbeat kind of post, but I wanted to share what I was feeling.

Hopefully I can survive the next 8 days, but if not, you can read me post mortem :) This week's posts are De-Sensitivity Training for the Zombie Apocalypse and The Incredible Shrinking Catwoman.

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Farkle!

....if ever a word could catch your attention (it sounds like something my four-year-old son would say, before laughing hysterically for three to five minutes).

I'd like to begin by expressing my excitement and appreciation for the opportunity to participate on this blog. Once the euphoria of being offered the Thursday spot began to wear off, it was quickly replaced by the humbling awareness of the responsibility that comes with this opportunity.

I've been following this blog since the beginning of January (I know - I'm just a baby!), and every time I read through a post, I have the same epiphany. Each time, what was said, was the very thing I needed to hear, at that moment.

And now it's my turn to wear the shoes. All week I've been pondering and praying and hoping that I can do the same. That I can offer you something, if just one small thing, that you need to hear, that will make a positive difference in your writing, or in your life.

Or at least, will make you laugh.

So here goes....

A few years ago my mom introduced us to a new dice game she had learned, that for whatever reason, was called Farkle (which name also made her laugh hysterically like my four-year-old son for three to five minutes).

If you've never played before, I recommend it - think Yahtzee meets Bunco. I don't want to go into too much detail here, because the point of this post is not to teach you how to play Farkle. Instead, I want to relate it to a principle of writing.

Basically, in the game of Farkle, you roll 5 or 6 dice (depending on the variation). Points are scored based on runs, three, four or five-of-a-kind, and for anytime a die rolls 1 (worth 100 points) or 5 (worth 50 points). Each player takes a turn rolling until they either a) lose all their points for that round by not rolling any pointers, or b) choose to keep the points they've earned thus far, and pass the dice to the next player. 1000 points gets you on the board. First player to pass 10,000 points, wins the game.

What's always fascinated me about this game (besides the name, of course) is the variation in strategies that players use to win.

Strategy #1: Go big, or go home. This strategy is simple. Following no more than what must be gut instinct, a player rolls until the odds are just too stacked against them, or until they bust. Essentially, a player gambles with their points. The catch: You never know how high you will go until you try. I've seen rolls of 3-5000 points. However, usually, a player risks too much and goes bust. Most people play this way. They sit at zero points and then bam!, they're at 2000. They stay there for a while and then bam! they're at 3500, etc.

Strategy #2: Take whatever you get. If I roll three 1's, a 4 and a 5, that's 350 points. I pass the dice and watch my total (slowly) accumulate. The catch: no (big) risk = no (big) reward. Players seldom adopt this strategy, because of the compelling question from strategy #1. "What if my next roll is the perfect roll?" That's not to say these players never get big rolls. It's just they usually don't stick out a turn long enough to see how big it could get.

So which strategy do I adopt? Well, I hate to admit it, but usually the first one. Strategy #2 just isn't that thrilling. It's the slow and steady wins the race concept. I love the thrill of rolling the dice, and the pride of saying "I guess I can settle for 2700 points this round".

The irony? Employing this exciting strategy seldom works for me. I almost always lose this game, to guess who?

Strategy #2 players. Who almost always win.

Slow and Steady wins the race.

So on to the writing metaphor.

As in Farkle, writing habits (and I mean the actual active of sitting down, pen to paper, fingers to keyboard) can be approached from two different methods.

Method #1: Wait for that big chunk of time, when nothing is in your way, to sit down and write like a mad man, producing words counts of 3-5000 words in a shot.

Method #2: Write when you can, when you can. Every word counts. Every fifteen minutes, every 200 words, brings you closer to the end of that story.

Which method do I employ? I'm sure it's not hard to imagine. For most of my life, as much as I love to write, I've believed I need the instant gratification of a soaring word count. Then I can pat myself on the back, and tell myself what a fantastic job of writing I've done that day. The catch? As a wife of a student, working mother of three, friend, daughter, sister, devoted reader, etc., when does one find big chunks of time? Last year, employing this strategy, I managed to write a grand total of approx. 83, 000 words (and 50,000 of those were during NaNoWriMo).

So with a new year, and a chance at new resolutions, I decided to change that. Instead of focusing on my word count, I focused on my method. Write when I can. Some days, I'm surprised at the time I can find when I'm actually looking for it. And some days all I get is fifteen minutes scraped together from I-just-don't-know-where!

But guess what? In January and February, I've already written a grand total of approx. 42,000 words. More than half of my 2011 total. In the first two months alone. Without the need to pull aside large (unavailable) chunks of time. Eeep!

Now, I'm not implying that these are the only two methods with which to approach our writing, or that mine is the method that is best for you.

What I'm encouraging you to do is to examine your method. Think about the way you approach your writing, and ask yourself the question:
Is it working for me?

Re-examining my habits and methodology has lead me to a goldmine of new writing opportunities: This and other blogging opportunities, an almost finished WIP, and the knowledge that I can make little moments for myself at the end of the day to do one of the things I love best: write.

Slow and steady to the end of my story.

What was always such a faraway dream just came in reaching distance, but I don't have to fly to get there.

What about you? What's your methodology?

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

School Is In Session

My kids go back to school today. Four of my five are now full timers, with my youngest just a year away. This has been a really short summer for us, since in Utah we didn't go back until the end of August. Once we even waited until September. And since we just moved here, all of our normal "hang with family on this holiday or that birthday" went out the window. We're still adjusting to living in AZ, I guess. And while I love my children, having them all home, all the time, got a little (read: a lot) challenging. So I have to admit when my sister-in-law posted this on Facebook the other day, I just had to share.



I honestly don't know if I relate better to the father or the kids. There is supposed freedom in having them out from underfoot, but the reality is that my kindergartner has never done preschool and now he's full day. He's going to need some TLC. And my youngest has never gone a day without his brother who is only 17 months older. He'll get his fill of having the computer and TV to himself in about 4 hours and then he'll be bugging me to entertain him. So writing time by myself will not be as forthcoming as one might suppose.  So here's my question to all of you Mormon Mommy writers out there: what kind of schedule do you set up to make the most of those hours you have free? Because you know those hours aren't really free. They're waiting for you to fill them with chores or friends or a whole host of other things that will zap your writing time into smithereens.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

The Summertime Writing Blues

I know not all of you are in the same boat, but writing is hard for me during the summer. I have five kiddos, three of which are school attenders. We've been out of school around here since the last week of May, and I haven't written more than a page a week on anything, because my out of school schedule hadn't figured itself out yet.

But it finally occurred to me that I have to do now what I've always done: carve out time to write. If I let life and kids take over all my time, they will. If I let TV or Facebook or Twitter or just websurfing take it over, it will. There are important things in life, and my kids are one of them. But my writing is important, too. It is almost as vital to my emotional well being as prayer or scripture study or spending time with my husband. Without it, I have very little to give the other people in my life who need me.

So here's to finding a schedule and sticking to it. Flexibility is key, but what is in that flexible is up to me.

So what's in your schedule this summer and how are you going to carve out writing time?

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