When I thought about what to write for my first post, my mind went blank. (Go figure!) I started reading through some previous posts, and two things came to my mind. First, I love that all the Mormon Mommies on here are real. I like the fact that everyone writes about what they know. And because they write about what they know, people want to keep reading! I love it! The other thing is that I figured my first post would be about what I know. And that is what it is like being a single mom.
It's basically what being a married mommy is about... but with my limited experience in that area, I don't have a ton to compare it to. I can only speak about what I see from this side of the river. But I definitely have to get creative... I have to find new methods to do things, and organize my sounding boards. I have to find different ways to meet me and my children's needs. And I have to do a lot of swallowing of my pride, because it usually means doing a lot of asking for help. It isn't easy because I was raised in a family that taught us that if we had a problem, we needed to find our own solution.
There were 5 girls in my family (1 brother), and when we had car problems, my dad, being the sympathetic mechanic he was, would tell us, "Well, get under the hood and figure it out!" We changed our own tires, spark plugs and AC belts.
Maybe that's why Heavenly Father gave me this package to work with. It was what he knew would help me to continue to grow. But these are my suspicions, as I am sure he probably has more than one purpose. As Jeanna wrote about the different hats we wear, it made me think a lot about this one. It's a big hat! Ironically, I have a collection of hats myself, but hers are much more creative! The number one comment I hear from a lot of my married friends, is "I don't know how you do it. I don't think I could do what you do." to which I respond, "You would if you had to." I think this is true for any situation that we find ourselves in. Have you found yourself in a situation where you had to make decisions you never thought you could?
Good thoughts, Syra! What a blessing to have a dad who taught you such valuable lessons when you were young. Heavenly Father was definitely preparing you for this important mission! And that’s just what it is- a calling and a mission. I think you’re awesome. :-)
ReplyDeleteI love the attitude of just doing what you have to--it can be a big thing (a huge thing, even!), but if it's what you have to do, God gives us the strength to somehow figure it out. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI come from a do it yourself kind of family too. But when my hubby leaves with the military, I always seem to get in some sort of time crunch or tight situation and end up needing to ask for help - a lot. It is not easy, but it does give other people opportunity to serve and I find people are more willing to let me help them when they get in a tight situation. So in the long run it usually opens service opportunities for me also. Just keep swimming. =)
ReplyDeleteI think only the strongest people have the faith in others to ask for help. It's a sign to me of someone I want to aspire to be more like. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteYou are right, we do what we have to do, particularly as moms. God is always getting me out of my comfort zone. But, that's how we grow. I know this. I don't like it, but I know it. :-) I applaud your efforts as well. God is the ultimate father to your children, to all of us - and he provides what we need.
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