Bethany at Shooting Stars got me thinking about criticism.
My first response to criticism is defensiveness. I pout, I kick, I scream.
"Who cares what that person thinks?"
"What do they know?"
I realize that I can be a bit of 3 year old sometimes. However, I am not ignorant enough to allow my inner 3 year old to get the best of me. I've learned that when it comes to writing critiques, the critter is never wrong. They are telling you what and how they felt about your work. If you are wise you will take this response, good or bad, and learn how to make your work better-- the best.
The first time I put my work out there for the world to read and comment. I had many cheerleaders, praising my story and the emotions that I touched on. I was floating on cloud 9. There may have been some crazy victory dancing, or not. Then someone reminded me about gravity.
The critter didn't even put his/her name on the comment. This horrible person had the nerve to say that:
1. I was telling, not showing.
2. I could develop my charaacter more thoroughly.
3. I had to readdress my POV discrepancies.
I sulked, I pouted, I complained. I was a royal pill. Then, I was thankful. Why hadn't I noticed these faults? I was so stuck in my own story that I didn't see its weaknesses. We should be grateful for those people who are willing to lay it out there for us.
I am not saying that we should weight every critique equally, because ultimately it is our story to tell in the manner that we feel is appropriate. However, approach a critique with gratitude-- even if it takes some kicking and screaming to get to the thank you.
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